Frequently Asked Questions

Just go to this page for information on placing a listing. Only 1 inmate per listing. Must use legal name for listing – no alias. We can not guarantee they will obtain a pen pal. Please be mindful of what you write for the bio, we will censor xxx-rated words or content. Note: We must be able to verify they are indeed incarcerated in either a jail or prison with readily available jail roster or  department of corrections database. Unverifiable listings will be rejected. With few exceptions, no outside email addresses to other people are allowed on the listings.

Once you place an order you should receive an email with instructions for sending photos. Make sure to check your spam or junk folder. If you do not find the email, simply send the photos (up to 3) to and include the inmates name.

Please note: You would be surprised how many people place an order and never bother to send a photo. If no photos are received within 24 hours, we will make an effort to locate a photo to complete the order. If no photo is available, we will publish the ad without a photo.

It depends on the prison they are located in. If e-messaging service is available, it will be listed on the inmates profile with instructions.

It depends on the prison they are located in. If texting/chirping service is available, it will be listed on the inmates profile with instructions. If, as a courtesy, you place money on their account for texting, please keep in mind there is no guarantee of a response. 

Yes, most incarcerated individuals are not allowed access to the internet to place the listing themselves. We therefore allow family members and friends to place a profile on our site. If it comes to our attention that a listing is posted with malicious intent, the page will be removed and no refund issued.  Note: There is a small fee for a 1 year listing. 

Please have the person that placed the order contact us to cancel a listing. If the inmate is out, they can also contact with a request for removal, proof of ID is required. There are no refunds for listings canceled.

The old listing is deleted and gone. You will need to place a new order and make payment again.  Making the page again requires the same amount of time and labor as a new listing and will be considered as such. 

No. The minimum listing price is in 1 year increments even if you wish to have it listed for a lesser time or cancel early for any reason. Also, if it comes to our attention the inmate has been released and is no longer able to be contacted as a pen pal, we will remove the listing without notice and without partial refund.

Many of these women have no one else outside of the prison to communicate with. Writing a prisoner can lend moral support and encouragement for turning their lives around. It can also help the days pass until their release.

That is a very real possibility. As an adult, you are in control of the situation and the choice is always yours. If you want to help in that manner, ALWAYS use caution and  common sense and be aware some of the girls may try to take advantage. Many of the prisons allow books from publishers to be sent, or funds to be placed on their account to purchase music, emails, and personal care products within the confines of prison. It is not advised to send large amounts or money outside the confines of their prison account. 

Be yourself. You can introduce yourself and talk about anything that regular friends discuss. It’s alright to ask them why they are there and what their hopes and dreams are. Be aware that mail is monitored and sometimes censored. 

No, we use the information that is provided to us. Please be aware that there have been instances of  ‘Catfishing’. This is when they provide a false photo of themselves to lure someone into a relationship. If you consider entering a relationship with one of the girls, we recommend you do your homework to include asking the girl to send you a photo of themselves from prison or online video chats so you can actually see her. Prison photos are never flattering when compared to photos on the outside wearing makeup. Anyone caught submitting false photos that can be absolutely verified will have their page removed from the site without a refund. 

We do not list the criminal offense or sentencing unless it is specifically requested when the listing is posted. As a potential pen pal, the responsibility rests with you to discover this information if so desired. There are services and resources available online where you can research this information. The women inmates posted on this site run the gamut of every crime imaginable…. and unimaginable.   

Each state has different requirements. Please check with the individual prisons to see what is allowed or not. Here are the mailing requirements for the Washington Corrections Center for Women

We strive to keep everything up to date, however, there are times that a girl gets released or transfered without letting us know. If you could email us at to let us know, it would be greatly  appreciated.  

Absolutely!! We’ve received positive feedback from girls getting overseas mail.  

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